Friday, September 17, 2010

happy birthday grandma

i suck at mailing stuff. i want to be good at it. but i just suck. i meant to send something to my niece for her first birthday (which is tomorrow). since i haven't even bought anything yet, you can only imagine how belated her gift will be once it finally gets to alabama. why did you move zoe?!?!?!? now i really look like a bad aunt.

but i'm going to blame my negligence on the fact that we are moving out of this apartment tomorrow and sunday. i am presently sitting on our temporary 'couch', which is really an air mattress with an additional blow-up part that makes the back prop up like a seat. ghetto. and fabulous. the only thing chris registered for on our bridal registry. and of course he got it from a groomsman. thanks perrys. we use this thing every time we move. which means we use it VERY OFTEN!

anyway, this is a little ode to my beautiful grandmama, who just turned a year older, (and wiser!) on thursday. i am not exactly sure of her exact age, but just know that she can be found on facebook where she keeps up with the many many watsons and her other 100+ friends.

i think i mentioned before that i haven't had a grandmother since i was in the third grade. so having gradma watson after not having had one for about 16 years really made up for lost time!

there's a popular shirt that little kids wear that says: "what happens at grandma's stays at grandma's." not true with grandma watson. cause what happens at, or with grandma, is growth, and you can't just keep that bottled in. grandma is a wise, disciplined, and loving woman. watching how she loves her husband, hearing how she raised her boys (4 outstanding men!), seeing her face light up when she is hanging out with her greatgrandkids, watching her dote on her sister who has terminal cancer without ceasing even though she herself is a little bit pooped out! it's amazing! this woman is amazing. and i am beyond blessed to have her as a grandma and close friend. she encourages me to do better at all things- being a mom, a wife, a child of God, follower of Jesus. not just through her words (though she always has great words of encouragement, which is good for me since i am a words of affirmation kind of girl.) but definitely through her example.

grandma! i am so sorry i didn't send you a card in the mail. but just know that i love you so very very much, and you are an inspiration! happy belated birthday.

Monday, September 13, 2010

game time is...

a time of high emotions. good times. lots and lots of disappointing and bitter and sad times. yes, it's football season again, and my stupid arizona cardinals loving husband couldn't be happier! (mostly cause the cards managed to magically win their first game.) also, chris has started playing in a community basketball league, and he also happened to have his first basketball game on sunday after the cardinals' victory. chris' team dominated, and so chris was walking around with the biggest grin on his face. sports. they can make him feel things, that i, as his wife, and best friend, and mother to his children, still cannot.

sunday could have been an annoying sports/chris-centric day, if it hadn't been for how hilarious the kids were. they love sports too! or they love to yell, and watching sports is a great outlet for them to scream at people, without getting in trouble themselves. while watching the cardinals game with his dad, topher was yelling all sorts of crazy things. and at the right times! when the cardinals did something right (oh so rarely so topher really had to be on his toes to catch those opportunities) topher cheered- even before chris did. but when chris would be upset by one of their fumbles or other football follies, chris would grunt and yell, and then topher would let out a giant: "oh gosh!" and then he wanted chris to mimic him, so topher started to encourage chris: "dad, say: 'oh gosh!' " and he would wait. no response. "dad, say: 'oh gosh!' " he did this a handful of times. chris did not say 'oh gosh!' cause topher was being too funny and so he couldn't really say anything.

then after watching the cardinals game, we went to a junior high school where a bunch of grown (some over-grown), sweaty men gathered in a not-very-well air conditioned gym to disply their manliness to the crowds that had gathered to watch them play. aka their families. we had a great time cheering for #8. definite NBA potential... but lily and topher were yelling the funniest things while chris played.

lily: "go dad! you can do it! hey dad! look! i'm over here! hey dad!" and of course, chris looked over, which made lily so happy.

topher: "great job dad! you're doing great! ... oh gosh!..."

hopefully this is the right video, but for some reason i told the kids chris was going the wrong way (away from his basket) and then all of a sudden the kids started yelling really really loudly that he was going the wrong way. a lot of the other spectators were very amused. moms and wives of course.



anwyay, sunday happened to be a really great day for sports in the watson household. there will be some days of mixed emotions, and other days of just bad bad bad emotions. and the Suns are gearing up for their season in a bit over a month too, which will just add an extra dimension of emotions. but for now, we are happy to have spent such a happy and success-filled sunday

Thursday, September 9, 2010

what i can and cannot do

- i can put my kids to bed at a decent time. i can put my kids down at a not decent time. i cannot make them fall asleep.

- i can try my best to tire the heck out of my kids so that they will be really really tired when they go to bed. i cannot cause them to stay asleep until 8am (which is what i really really want! though at this point i will also take 6:15am!)

- i can put healthy food in front of my kids every day, 3 times a day. i cannot make them eat it and swallow it and digest it.

- i can hide junk food from my kids. i cannot keep them from finding it and eating it. and they do! every time! they're such crafty toddlers...

- i can show my kids the right way to treat others and speak to them. i cannot control every impulse or action they make, or filter every word that comes out of their mouths. (but i know i can keep trying to train them!)

- i can tell my kids to hug and kiss people. but i cannot make them love those people. even if they are our family. (i mean this mostly for the family members they never really get to see. like my poor brothers!!!!)

- i can tell my kids not to hug and kiss people later in life. but i probably cannot actually control that either. (but i bet you chris is going to try really hard on this one. surveillance is one of his fortes and all.)

- i can try to be organized with the toys, mail, coupons, general things of life. i cannot keep it up for more than a few short days.

- i can make my kids laugh all the livelong day. i cannot get tired of hearing that wonderful noise!

- i can spend a lot of time doing other things instead of hanging out with my kids- make dinner, do the dishes, fold laundry, etc, etc. but i cannot get that time back.

- i can lead a million small groups. but unless i have some meaningful quiet time and focus on my own growth, i cannot be an effective leader for long.

- i can tell my kids to pee or poo on the potty. i cannot make pee or poo come out of their bodies (that's a little piece of mind for you moms who are potty training! but when we used to have our little dog, meeklo, if you scared him, he would pee on the floor. every frickin time. miss that dumb dog...)

- i can tell my family and friends i love them till i'm blue in the face. but i cannot make them believe it without actually making efforts to grow our relationships through spending time together. even if it's mostly e-mails and text messages due to distance and my lack of owning a jet plane!!!!

Tuesday, September 7, 2010

don't tell topher

i know that being in a relationship is not the most important thing in the world. i mean a dating-relationship. being in a relationship with Jesus actually is the most important thing in the world. anyhoo, when i lived in toronto, i used to teach 'sunday school' to high schoolers. we still called it 'sunday school' but i guess it's your modern day 'small groups'. i actually just started leading a high school small group two weeks ago and i LOVE it!!!! i will post more about that at another time. but as i was saying, i used to hang out with these high schoolers and i would always ask them- 'do you have a boyfriend/girlfriend?' cause cute/funny stories would always ensue. but then i realized that by my asking them that question all the time, i was putting major importance on 'being in a relationship with the opposite sex'. and i didn't mean to do that at all. so i stopped asking that question.

i remember that lesson even now, and it's been about 8 years since my last 'sunday school group' in toronto. being a mama now, i definitely do not want lily and topher to be fixated on having boyfriends and girlfriends. ever. they can have them, when they're like 26. but being in dating-mode is draining and consuming!

but, on a light-hearted note, topher is 2. and there is a girl i would love for him to marry. she is crazy-smart, sweet, beautiful (she has sapphire eyes!), and her mama is one of my bestest buds.

last week i went over to babysit/hang out with said girl and her precious little sister too (topher can marry her if he wants. either girl will make me happy.) so that mom could go out by herself. we had dropped lily off at school already, and i told topher that today we would be hanging out with cambry. "camby?" no topher. not marcus camby. we don't want to hang out with that guy even if the opportunity presents itself. that thin mustache screams "child molestor!!!!!" but then i remembered that topher's not much of an 'enunciator'. "yes, camby's house."

we got to cam's house and i didn't want to park in their drive-way, so i pulled into it, then reversed out to park on the curb. as i was in reverse topher started freaking out- "go to camby's house!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!" omg child. relax.

we got out. had a GREAT time hanging out. and then i got this gem of a pic:


two 2 year-olds smiling and looking at the camera at the same time?!?!? miracle.

anyhoo, this post is a secret from topher, cause even though i really want him to marry cambry, in about 24 years, i want him to be able to enjoy his childhood without the pressures of having to impress the ladies at every playdate.

Sunday, September 5, 2010

so many words

i don't know why i was just thinking about this, but i remember a bunch of years ago, my friends were having their house built by their dad, who happened to be an architect/contractor/jack-of-all-trades kind of guy. he was an old guy. korean. super-serious. scared me just to walk by him at church. not mean. just serious. anyway, his then very young grand-daughter, i think she was about 5 at the time, looked at him while he worked on building the fireplace. he was hard at work, and she was hard at work staring in amazement. she looked at her grandfather and said: "you're an artist."

oh my goodness. blew everyone away. such simple words. words that the old man had probably never ever heard in his long and illustrious career as a man who knew how to make good money. my friends were blown away at the sincerity and beauty of their daughter's words.

kids and words. so amazing. having the kids talk right now is my favorite. everything they say, the way they say it, the voices that say what they say. so awesome. i love kids and their words.

lily has been repeating everything i say lately. and of course, she says it way cuter than i do.

the other day she hit topher. she had a time out, and when she came out of it, we talked about the wrong that she had done, and then i told her to apologize to her brother. so she called him over: "topher." no response. topher is a spce ranger. "topher" she repeated. still nothing. she is standing right behind him. now she's serious: "topher. look at me." (i tell the kids to look at me all the time when they are in trouble, or i am trying to convey a very important message) topher turns around obediently. "topher, i am so sorry i hit you." and as always topher says: "that's ok noona." what a great brother and sister pair.

then this morning, as we are eating breakfast, lily looks at me and says: "mom, i need to talk to you." man this 3 year-old can be serious! "yes, lily?" i am intrigued. "i am sorry i came into your room again." now listen here reader- she didn't come into my room and see anything inappropriate or anything crazy like that. lily has been coming into our room almost every night for the last couple of nights, again, and i have had to get up and bring her back to her bed every time. exhausting! we have talked about how my room is only for mommy and daddy sleeping, even though two mornings ago, i woke up to find both lily and topher asleep in a heap on the floor near our bed. so adorable. anyway, with lily's sudden apology this morning, we'll see if things change.

but one thing that will not change is just how stinking awesome it is to have great conversations with great kids. or even better, to hear great conversations between great kids.

Friday, September 3, 2010

lily day

i was able to spend a lot of time with lily today, which was delightful, though not in the most delightful situation.

the day started off normally enough. we all went to 'Bounce U', a fun indoor place to play on inflated slides, and bouncey things. the kids had a gret time, but probably not as great a time as chris. he was running up the slide when no one was looking, and sliding down, getting plastic-burns on his elbows and knees all the while. he was basically a giant kid, and the kids (our actual off-spring) were just cracking up at everything their dad was doing. great times.

then chris took lily to the potty, and that's when things went south, in a bad way. i was in the girl's bathroom with topher, which had a shared wall with the men's room, and we could hear lily screaming her head off. chris came out with a very upset lily. apparently her 'girly bits' were very red and as soon as she started peeing, that's when she started screaming. so we called the doctor.

i took the lilsters to see our pediatrician. we had a great time in the car doing shadow puppets, without shadows. she was in a really great mood. i had some pretty strong reservatinos as to whether or not she could possibly have a urinary tract infection, which is definitely what we thought she might have.

we got to our pediatrician's office and it was pretty empty! yeah! i actually got there 15 minutes early, and they had us go to the bathroom to try to pee in a cup right away, which was perfect cause we needed the extra time. lily had to pee, but wasn't about to burn herself again the way she did when chris took her a couple of hours earlier. i gave her lots to drink, tried to coax that pee out with promises of unicorns, ice cream, and jewels. nothing. she was trying so hard. but she was kinda creeped out by my hand under her holding a cup. she kept telling me to put that away. ok. she did poop a bit (glad i put the cup away). and i noticed her bum was a bit red too. after about 20 minutes in the bathroom, we emerged, unsuccessful. oh well.

the nurse called us and asked lily to stand on the scale. 32 pounds! we passed the 30mark! great job lily. then lily looked at the nurse and said: "teacher, i have an oww on my girlie bits."

wow.

we proceeded to the little room, and lily was really excited to be there. i don't know why. my sweet girl was just in such a great mood! we were having a great time! then the doctor came in, and lily showed her how much Jun Lee loved to spin on the doctor's little roll-y spinny stool that she sits on (not to be confused with a bowel movement.) the doctor asked lily why she was here, and again, lily said very proudly that she had owwies on her girlie bits. at this time i begged the doctor to fix lily up asap styles cause she was telling anyone with ears that she had owws in her special area, and that just didn't sound right, even though she said it so dang cute-like!

after a bunch of questions- do we swim in public pools, does she wear nice clean undies (as opposed to crazy leather ones?), has she been crying every time she pees, has she been eating a lot of acidic fruit, we decided that the last question may have been the winner. but the doc still wanted a pee sample, so in we went for more quality bathroom time. we emerged unsuccesful one more time, but the third time was definitely a charm. and it only took like 30 minutes of bribing, playing in the sink, drinking 1.5 sippy cups worth of water, and dancing in the bathroom!

lily was very impressed with how i caught her pee mid-stream in the little cup they had given me. when we gave it to the nurse/'teacher' lily told her all about my awesome catching skills. good times.

so lily is 'sick' cause she's been eating too healthy! ugh. i can't win with children's diets! which is why we had an ice cream break while we waited for her perscription to be filled. and needless to say, this only made my already-happy lily, and my awesome time with her, all the more awesome and happy. unicorns and jewels to follow another day.

Wednesday, September 1, 2010

kids saying more darned things

tuesday was parents' night at lily's preschool. almost missed it! i am not used to how the school is environmentally friendly and prints information on both sides of the paper. fortunately the school is also good about posting giant, flourescent reminders for big deals like parents night.

but i was already booked up babysitting for some friends, and so i stayed home and chris went. he texted me when he got there and said he was outnumbered men to women 2:50. crazy. i'm glad chris ended up going.

he learned from lily's teacher that earlier at school, they were showing their brown bags full of stuff their favorite things. in lily's bag was a pink crayon, a pink hair elastic, a little thing of pink nail polish, a toy donut, a card with baseball stickers (for her love of stickers, and baseball), and a picture of Pororo, her favorite little korean penguin.

lily's teacher asked her about Pororo. "is he korean? do you speak korean?" lily answered in the affirmative. "wow! can you say 'hi' in korean?" and in true watson-form, lily said "hi in korean." oh i love my girl!!!

meanwhile at home, i was trying to get three little kids to sleep. the baby i was watching is 3 months old and had a ton of gas! so needless to say she was not the happiest baby on the block. so with her crying, it was hard for my kids to fall asleep. they were pretty concerned. :what's wrong with baby girl? what's wrong with colbie?" no. i wasn't watching our friend colbie, but for some reason my kids call almost all babies colbies at some point. it's weird and funny. so i was running from her room to their room and so on and so forth. one of the last times, i was sitting with topher, who was pretty upset, and i told him i had to take care of the baby. he looked up at me with the most earnest look and he said: "mom, take care of topher first." and then i was pretty upset...